I found this video by relationship coach and gay matchmaker Paul Angelo very interesting. Angelo says that, "Forgiveness and responsibility are the basics of moving on and are the foundation for lifelong learning. However, as a gay man over 40, when you forgive others too quickly, without assigning responsibility for their role in your conflict, you are preventing yourself from growing psychologically and spiritually and are bound to repeat the same mistakes in the future." He adds, "Without addressing responsibility, logical connections between events, individuals and their roles in the conflict are never made and the insights are hidden behind the clout of forgiveness. Those insights are never learned and not integrated into the psychology so that future conflicts can be prevented."
Is forgiveness enough? Watch the video and share your thoughts in the comments.
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